Beyond Hair Loss: A Lacie Rodriguez Interview on Self-Love

About Lacie Rodriguez

 "Born in Utah for most of my life, mostly in small towns. I have been married for almost 14 years and have three children, ages 12, 9, and 4. I do various things on my own, but primarily focus on content creation for social media. I began creating makeup tutorials and selling makeup. I also work within the online community for female hair loss. When discussing my journey, I presume you are referring to my experience with hair loss". 

Lacie, a familiar face in the female hair loss community, candidly reveals how her own journey with hair loss began at the tender age of 19. The experience was devastating, leaving her feeling powerless. But, as she points out, it also served as a catalyst. It forced her to confront her deepest insecurities about her physical appearance and embark on a path of self-discovery.

Hair toppers became a significant part of Lacie's journey. They provided a solution, a sense of control she hadn't felt before. But it wasn't about hiding behind them; it was about reclaiming her power. This realization, she explains, led to a profound introspection that ultimately reshaped her relationship with herself. For Lacie, finding a solution to her hair loss through the use of toppers was a pivotal step in her journey towards self-acceptance. It gave her back a sense of control and allowed her to confront her deeper insecurities. This realization challenges the notion that one must love themselves first before finding solutions. For Lacie, it was the opposite. External tools, like hair toppers, can be empowering, facilitating the journey toward self-love.

Her Hair Loss Journey

 "Hair loss is the most powerless I've ever felt about my physical appearance. With my body, I knew I had some power, but with my hair, I felt totally powerless. The doctor told me it's genetic and there's no solution. It was devastating. When I found hair toppers, I felt empowered again. 

Hair toppers became a significant part of Lacie's journey. They provided a solution, a sense of control she hadn't felt before. But it wasn't about hiding behind them; it was about reclaiming her power. This realization, she explains, led to a profound introspection that ultimately reshaped her relationship with herself. For Lacie, finding a solution to her hair loss through the use of toppers was a pivotal step in her journey towards self-acceptance. It gave her back a sense of control and allowed her to confront her deeper insecurities. This realization challenges the notion that one must love themselves first before finding solutions. For Lacie, it was the opposite. External tools, like hair toppers, can be empowering, facilitating the journey toward self-love.

How Her Depression and Anxiety Started 

 "I grew up in an abusive home. My dad was a monster and I experienced a lot of abuse. It was really rough for me. My parents had an unstable relationship throughout my childhood. My mom was always on the verge of a breakdown. I knew I couldn't be a burden to her. I had to protect her. 

 It took me a long time, but I finally learned. I experienced depression, anxiety, and a fear of being alone. I would stay in bed all day, avoiding my issues and responsibilities. It was a lot of work, but I've made progress. I pushed everything down because I didn't want my mom's life or worry about me. My dad never respected my feelings, it was always about him. My siblings and I learned not make things harder for anyone and protect our mom. We took on adult responsibilities as kids. Childhood trauma included fear of anger because of my dad's anger. It took me a while, but I now understand that anger and conflict is part of life.  "

Lacie's journey has been a testament to her resilience. She's battled depression and anxiety since middle school, navigating the challenges of a difficult childhood and the societal pressures women face. She speaks candidly about her experiences with depression and anxiety, beginning in middle school. She describes the challenges of growing up in an abusive home, where she learned to suppress her emotions and avoid being a burden on her mother. This pattern of emotional suppression continued into her adult life, impacting her relationships and her sense of self.

But through it all, she's discovered that she has so much more to offer the world than just her physical appearance. Becoming a mother was a pivotal moment in Lacie's journey. It shifted her perspective, allowing her to see the world through her children's eyes and recognize the importance of self-acceptance. Motherhood, she shares, brought a profound shift in her perspective. It allowed her to connect with her emotions on a deeper level and to understand the importance of self-acceptance, not just for herself, but for her children as well.

Lacie also talks about the importance of recognizing and accepting anger, an emotion often stigmatized. She's learned to identify the root cause of her anger and use it as a tool for self-understanding and growth. This, she explains, is a far cry from the explosive anger she witnessed as a child, and learning to embrace her anger in a healthy way has been crucial to her personal growth.

The Power of Community

 "I stumbled into this career unexpectedly. I have a deep emotional connection with people and easily make friends. Selling makeup was something I started on social media to regain my sense of self. I also discovered hair toppers around the same time. Initially, I thought it was a niche topic, but it made a big difference in my life, so I decided to share about it. Women started reaching out to me, wanting to know more. I began experimenting with different kinds of toppers and people would approach me for advice. 

 Some people feel vain when they mourn their hair loss. It is normal to mourn the loss of hair. People often want a topper that looks very realistic. They want it to look natural. There are many factors to consider for a natural-looking topper. The biggest thing women are looking for is a one-on-one connection" 

Lacie emphasizes the importance of community, especially for women experiencing hair loss. Sharing experiences, validating feelings, and offering support can make a world of difference. In her work with women experiencing hair loss, Lacie has created a community where women feel seen, heard, and validated. Her virtual consults offer personalized support and guidance, helping women navigate the world of alternative hair with confidence.

Lacie's Tips for Someone New to Hair Loss

 "I always tell people to find community as soon as you possibly can. And a lot of women act like that seems childish. Like, you know, I'm not in high school anymore. I don't need like a girl gang. And that's really not what it is at all. But it's just finding that support system of women who've been through the same thing. And I don't know the magic of that is just incomparable. So finding these women and filling your social media feed really amazing women who are living a really fulfilling life and also have hair loss. Some of them don't even wear alternative hair and that's good to see too. You don't have to have alternative hair to live a happy life but some of us choose to wear it. So I would say that is a huge part of kind of shifting your perspective because a lot of us feel like when our hair is falling out that like, you know, the joy in life, the like that joy of going out and enjoying a night out is over. but it doesn't have to be. So I'd say finding community is first. 

 The second thing is finding some kind of solution for you and that can be a million different things. Could be like shaving your head and just rocking like a bald look. There are some women, that's what they do and they feel really empowered by that and that's their choice of their solution, right? It doesn't have to be, of course, my solution is hair toppers and wigs. Like I love wearing hair when I wanna feel put together. You could just really double down on working with a doctor, a dermatologist, if you feel like that's going to help you in this journey, do it. Finding something to focus on that's within your control. That doesn't mean your hair's gonna magically grow back. You might, but it's usually just feeling like you're taking that power back. That I'm doing something about something that feels powerless. So finding some kind of solution for you to give you some of that power back. And then just... doing that inner work and sometimes that's therapy, sometimes that's just self care and getting really, really familiar with how you function and what your real needs are. And the more you work on that, the better you're gonna feel and the less you're gonna care about losing your hair." 

Lacie's story is an ongoing journey, one without a graduation ceremony. It's about continuous growth, self-compassion, and recognizing that worth is not attached to appearance.

It's also a reminder that the journey of hair loss is about so much more than just the physical. It's about self-discovery, resilience, and embracing our worth beyond appearance. Her story, along with our mission at Dimples Hair, offers hope and encouragement to anyone navigating their own hair loss journey.

The Dimples Topper Lacie is wearing:  Clio 14L French •Remy Human Hair   

RESOURCES

•Letting Go by David Hawkins 

•The Dimples Topper Lacie is wearing:  Clio 14L French •Remy Human Hair   

•Lacie’s  Review of the Clio 14L

•Lacie’s  Review of the Dimples Clio 12L 

•Items Lacie uses to keep her Dimples Toppers long-lasting -  COMBO PACK | Shampoo & Conditioner for Remy Human Hair

•What Lacie uses for her hair between washes for moisture and styling -  Leave-In Conditioner 

•National Alopecia Foundation | NAAF 

•Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) 

•Lacie's social media accounts:
-Instagram 
-Tiktok 
-Website
-YouTube